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I'm married, and I'm on Tinder.
No, this isn't some Ashley Madison 2.0 situation, nor am I in an open relationship where I'm free to date outside of my marriage.
In response to the fact many of my friends are moving overseas right now, six weeks ago I decided on a social self-experiment: Can I use Tinder to make friends?
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My relationship pre-dates Tinder, so despite the fact I know all about it, I'd never actually used it. I was cautious from the outset, of course, but hopeful it would introduce me to people I'd otherwise never interact with.
First came the conversation with my husband: 'Are you OK with me doing this?' and then the warnings from existing friends: 'Seriously, a lot of people on Tinder will think the 'friends' thing is a front for cheating and/or three-ways.'
I downloaded the app, created my profile using my most recent Facebook pictures, and wrote a short bio with a full disclaimer of what I was on Tinder for.
The initial hours on day one of Tinder friend-making were exciting, confusing, and hectic. I've sat in the passenger seat of the 'swipe left, swipe right' phenomenon with single friends before, but this time I was driving.
It felt terribly uncomfortable choosing possible future friends based on their looks. I felt dismissive and judgmental from the outset, but knew it was part of the game and the only way to progress forward.
Creative professional, 37, curated beard? Swipe right. High-vis vest, 29, fishing rod and DTF? Swipe left. Intellectual with glasses, 27, multiple flag emojis (inferring multilingualism)? Swipe right.
And so the process went on, until 'it's a match!' alerts light up the screen. Enter premature excitement. 'It works! I'm making friends!'
By the end of day one, I had matched with 30 people and initiated conversations with about 15. Come 10pm, I actually became so exhausted I turned my phone off and threw it in another room for the night.
Over the subsequent days, the chat with potential Tinder friend dates was mixed. Two or three matches I was dead-keen to meet pretty early on: The conversations flowing, the interests mutual, the humour well-received.
Others petered out quickly because of mundane chat on both sides, though the communication was never as banal as on other dating apps (where 'Up to?' and 'U host?' is in the common vernacular).
There were some unfortunate experiences, too, where the chat turned sour.
There were matches who obviously didn't read my bio and persistently asked what my husband and I were 'looking for'; and a match that, despite my diplomacy, offended me more than once and caveated it with, 'I'm not rude. I'm honest. You can punch me in the face if you want'.
All of such experiences had me unmatching reasonably swiftly.
When it came to my first real life Tinder Friend Date, I felt as nervous as if I were single and dating again.
Irrationally, of course, because neither of us were trying to sleep with the other. Our chat had graduated from Tinder to Facebook Messenger, meaning I knew he was legitimate, and the days of preceding conversation lined up with who he was in real life.
So far, so good. Tinder Friend Date number two went similarly, and had you asked me at this point how my experiment was going, I would have replied: 'Easiest. Friend-making. Ever.'
That was until I got stood up by Tinder Friend Date number three. Communication with me – which had been responsive and timely for 10 days – ceased 30 minutes prior to our organised meet-up. Nonchalantly sipping my sad glass of wine alone, I knew then he was never to be heard from again.
Numbers four and five never got off the ground either, despite my best efforts. Initial conversation had been fun and flowing, but when it came to finally organising a meet, they just weren't interested. As if they got their Tinder jollies simply by matching and chatting, felt validated through that, and never had plans to turn digital interaction into real life.
Is Tinder Good For Making Friends
Though I'd maintained using Tinder for new matches and new chats, I soon realised if I wasn't proactive about the first post-match message (or conversation deeper than 'how's it going?'), Tinder goes, well, nowhere at all. This app is populated by lurkers who don't want to make much effort themselves.
Tinder Friend Date six was bad. He clearly wanted to have sex with me and thought my friend-making objective was a façade (as it may well be for others on the app). I let the interaction last a polite 20 minutes, and then left and unmatched him before my foot had hit the pavement outside.
However, my most recent Tinder Friend Date, this past weekend, was a standout hit. I took my husband along to this one, and all three of us ended up furiously chatting for two hours (instead of the pre-allocated one-hour slots most other Tinder users seem to give each other), wondering how we weren't friends already.
Tinder - Dating & Make Friends App Store
Is it possible to make genuine, platonic friends on Tinder? Though I've only been in the game six weeks, I have one or two new friends with whom I see long-term potential.
The initial hours on day one of Tinder friend-making were exciting, confusing, and hectic. I've sat in the passenger seat of the 'swipe left, swipe right' phenomenon with single friends before, but this time I was driving.
It felt terribly uncomfortable choosing possible future friends based on their looks. I felt dismissive and judgmental from the outset, but knew it was part of the game and the only way to progress forward.
Creative professional, 37, curated beard? Swipe right. High-vis vest, 29, fishing rod and DTF? Swipe left. Intellectual with glasses, 27, multiple flag emojis (inferring multilingualism)? Swipe right.
And so the process went on, until 'it's a match!' alerts light up the screen. Enter premature excitement. 'It works! I'm making friends!'
By the end of day one, I had matched with 30 people and initiated conversations with about 15. Come 10pm, I actually became so exhausted I turned my phone off and threw it in another room for the night.
Over the subsequent days, the chat with potential Tinder friend dates was mixed. Two or three matches I was dead-keen to meet pretty early on: The conversations flowing, the interests mutual, the humour well-received.
Others petered out quickly because of mundane chat on both sides, though the communication was never as banal as on other dating apps (where 'Up to?' and 'U host?' is in the common vernacular).
There were some unfortunate experiences, too, where the chat turned sour.
There were matches who obviously didn't read my bio and persistently asked what my husband and I were 'looking for'; and a match that, despite my diplomacy, offended me more than once and caveated it with, 'I'm not rude. I'm honest. You can punch me in the face if you want'.
All of such experiences had me unmatching reasonably swiftly.
When it came to my first real life Tinder Friend Date, I felt as nervous as if I were single and dating again.
Irrationally, of course, because neither of us were trying to sleep with the other. Our chat had graduated from Tinder to Facebook Messenger, meaning I knew he was legitimate, and the days of preceding conversation lined up with who he was in real life.
So far, so good. Tinder Friend Date number two went similarly, and had you asked me at this point how my experiment was going, I would have replied: 'Easiest. Friend-making. Ever.'
That was until I got stood up by Tinder Friend Date number three. Communication with me – which had been responsive and timely for 10 days – ceased 30 minutes prior to our organised meet-up. Nonchalantly sipping my sad glass of wine alone, I knew then he was never to be heard from again.
Numbers four and five never got off the ground either, despite my best efforts. Initial conversation had been fun and flowing, but when it came to finally organising a meet, they just weren't interested. As if they got their Tinder jollies simply by matching and chatting, felt validated through that, and never had plans to turn digital interaction into real life.
Is Tinder Good For Making Friends
Though I'd maintained using Tinder for new matches and new chats, I soon realised if I wasn't proactive about the first post-match message (or conversation deeper than 'how's it going?'), Tinder goes, well, nowhere at all. This app is populated by lurkers who don't want to make much effort themselves.
Tinder Friend Date six was bad. He clearly wanted to have sex with me and thought my friend-making objective was a façade (as it may well be for others on the app). I let the interaction last a polite 20 minutes, and then left and unmatched him before my foot had hit the pavement outside.
However, my most recent Tinder Friend Date, this past weekend, was a standout hit. I took my husband along to this one, and all three of us ended up furiously chatting for two hours (instead of the pre-allocated one-hour slots most other Tinder users seem to give each other), wondering how we weren't friends already.
Tinder - Dating & Make Friends App Store
Is it possible to make genuine, platonic friends on Tinder? Though I've only been in the game six weeks, I have one or two new friends with whom I see long-term potential.
Not a bad turnout considering I'd spent the previous six months joining sports teams and new gyms, sitting optimistically at bars, and trying new extracurriculars – all the things you're told to do when trying to make friends – and not making a single one.
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